My Winning and Losing Mind Pattern
>I lost in the competition when I was in high school
>not enough people voted for me
>I did not get enough support to win
>some people do not like me
>though, I won the next time I competed
>I got enough votes from people
>It's good that they like me
Here, there is an idea that when I win or get the majority vote, I am better than the rest based on the belief that when I win, I will increase my value as a person. There is also the desire and expectation to win in a competition. Self-judgment is also present and a projection of ones definition of oneself as inferior.
I am going to rewrite this pattern by forgiving myself, redefining words and correcting myself
What is Self-forgiveness?
It is the process by which an individual forgives oneself for accepting and allowing self to separate from objective reality, releasing positive and negative value judgments such as good or bad, right or wrong, positive or negative - as subjective interpretations of reality regarding something or someone that leads to stability as breath.
Writing Self-forgiveness Statements, Redefining Words and Correction Scripts
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to have an idea that because I got majority votes in a competition I won - therefore better than the rest, based on a belief that that when I win I will increase my value as a person, instead of seeing and realizing that my value does not depend on the value others give me in competitions but who I am as per my stand as a part of life for what is mutually beneficial for all.
I commit to see, realize and understand that votes are
From
VOTE
opinion of a group
(VO-w To E-lect a winner)
To
VOTE
the understanding of what is mutually beneficial for all - of a group
(VO-w T-o E-lect that which is mutually beneficial for all concerned)
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to desire to compete to win - desire for more people to vote for me as an individual - to increase the value that I am giving myself and the value that I believe others have of me instead of seeing and realizing that this is not my real value but a mind value that change.
I commit myself to redefine the word competition,
From
Competition
the act of competing for a prize
(COMPET-e -'I' in T-rial to I-ncrease and O-btain N-ote value)
To
Competition
The act of expressing myself as who and what I stand as - for what is mutually beneficial to all
(COMP-lete my
E-xpression, the
T-otality of '
I'
T-alking for/as the
I-ndivisible all having
ON-e value)
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that support is about me getting a lot of votes from people, instead of seeing and realizing that their choice is a personality choice that is based from a choice between two opposite poles of the same thing - winning and losing - where there is nothing to choose from as they are two opposite pole of one thing and in my believing that I and them have a choice, lies my self-dishonesty.
I commit myself to redefine support,
From
Support
Psychological or financial resources provided to make some project possible
(SUP-er PO - rtal for R- eenergizing others and T-aking AL-l credit)
To
Support
Providing needed resources to that person, project etc. that will be mutually beneficial for all
(SUP-er
PO-rt-al of
R-esponsibility s-
T-anding for/as AL-l)
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to judge myself as not good enough when I believe I lost a competition believing I lost because people dislike me instead of seeing and realizing that it is me projecting my own inferior definition of myself to others.
I commit myself to redefine the word 'inferior'
From
Inferior
Characteristic of having low importance
(IN FEAR 'I' r-O-a-R)
To
Inferior
Characteristic of having seen the humility in assuming a secondary role that is also mutually beneficial for all.
(IN this
F-ervor of r-
EA-l time
R-esponsibility as '
I' see what to stop or c-
OR-rect)
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to expect to win a competition believing that people like me when they vote for me, instead of realizing that that is an idea that me as the mind created - believing that winning is a way of giving myself value so it is for me to see that I have devalued myself within my definition of myself and that is why there is a need within me to increase my value - hence expecting to win.
I commit myself to consciously enter a competition, not to win but to express myself in a way that I can be understood - within what I stand for/as and give my message of oneness and equality.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that when people vote on me in a competition, and I win - I increase my value, instead of seeing and realizing that this is imagined value. This is a crutch that I hold on to - to feel good about myself. It is to realize that I am part of this life. I am here. So, my value is equal to the whole that is life.
I commit myself to when and as I see myself using competition to increase my value as a human, I stop - I breathe and bring myself here and rather than have an idea of winning, consciously participate to expand myself and express myself as who I really am in the way I talk and move, use it to redefine my relationship to the word 'competition' and live the redefined definition.
I commit myself to redefine the word 'win' and 'lose',
From
WIN
Obtain advantages, such as points, etc.
(W-ing it so 'I' could attain a desired goal to win or i-N-crease my value)
To
WIN
Obtain points from expressing oneself as standing for what is mutually beneficial for all
W-e as the '
I' with o-
N-e value, our value being equal to Life
=
From
LOSE
Fail to win
(LO-ss of S-ucc-E-ss)
To
LOSE
Not obtaining points for that which is mutually beneficial for all
(LO-ss as what is best for all was not S-ucce-E-sfully understood
