BHOE MUSIC: Bridging Heaven On Earth: RELATIONSHIPS

- by June Roca

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LYRICS: BHOE Relationships

Relationships

LYRICS

I am here in every moment

as the breath

within the body

interacting with every 

particle 

as the air

as the water 

as the atoms in existence

the mathematics 

of our relationships

is essentially equal and one

we breathe each others breath

as we walk and share

the same atmosphere

the illusion of separation

is nothing but 

a manipulation

of the equality equation

when we go back

to the drawing table 

we arrive at the

real equality equation

we are not separate 

from the whole

but equal parts of it

able to create 

the best life possible on earth

ones relationship 

with oneself being the platform

we can stand on 

when working as a team

same stable platform 

where we interact with a partner

or working

as a co-worker

the other person

walking on the street

is part of mankind 

which we are a part of

team life is 

the team 

that includes us all

we breathe each others breath

as we walk and share

the same atmosphere

I stand to create the best life

possible on earth

I am BHOE

I am bridging heaven on earth

are you BHOE?

Bridging Heaven on Earth Principles of Living: Relationships

OUR RELATIONSHIP WITH

 OURSELF IS 

THE PLATFORM OF OUR 

RELATIONSHIP WITH OTHERS


- JUNE ROCA


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Jealousy Is About Me Not About My Partner

Jealousy is not about our partner, It is about us. 

We 'JEAL' (or feel) LOUS-y because we defined ourselves as incomplete being alone or without a partner - therefore, inferior. We enter a relationship thinking that our partner will complete the lack within us - having an illusion that we will become superior within that. So, when we see our partner calling another, looking at another etc., we fear we can loose him - thereby also losing that 'complete us' that is now in a relationship which we defined will make us complete. We believe that if our partner keeps looking and calling another, this false sense of completeness will be lost and we will end up being alone.  This is us fearing being incomplete when we are alone - without a relationship.

I am looking at Jealousy here as an embodiment. I have memories of it when I was a kid where It all started. In my relationships, I can see this character in little things that i think about or do and an interview reminded me of it.

I am writing Self-forgiveness statements as a way of saying 'I am sorry' to myself for creating unnecessary stress in my body whenever I get jealous.


Self-forgiveness Statements:

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to be anxious when i see my partner smiling to another.

When and as I see myself becoming anxious when I see my partner smiling to another, I stop, I breathe. I realize that this is me trying to keep my partner for myself like a possession instead of seeing and realizing he is my mirror of myself. So, I commit myself to assist myself to see that who I am is a part of life - and that value does not decrease of increase when i have or not have a partner.
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I forgive myself that i have accepted and allowed myself to be anxious when i see my partner looking at another.

When and as I see myself being anxious when I see my partner looking at another woman/man, I stop - I breathe. I realize that the focus of attention of my eyes is my partner and not myself. So I commit myself to focus my attention on who and what i am in every moment and bring myself to stability by living the words  'stability', 'beingness' and 'completeness'.
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I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to be anxious when my partner calls another.

When and as I see myself getting anxious when my partner calls another, I stop - I breathe. I realize that this is me traveling to the past in the present - with a memory of my mom being asked to dance by another man and me resisting the idea of her dancing with another man in an event where I hold onto my mom so she cannot dance with this man believing that this man is going to steal my mom from me instead of seeing that dancing with someone is not about possessing the dance partner but rather 2 people with bodies moving in harmony dancing with the music - and remind myself also that when my partner calls another, he is exchanging insights with another. So i commit myself to live my redefinition of the word call  - to connect with someone using the phone to communicate or share insights with one another as me.
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I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to be anxious when my partner shows  affinity with someone.

When and as I see myself becoming anxious when my partner shows affinity to another, I stop - I breathe. I realize that affinity with another is about seeing the other as oneself so I should bring it back to myself. So, I commit myself to have affinity with myself and show affinity to my partner as myself and see him as me showing affinity to someone when i see him with another.

Relationships: Why are we evaluating our partners?

Relationships and evaluating our potential partners or present partners

Lessons I Learned From My Daughter's Visit: Money and Relationships

We arrived at Ashville, North Carolina after travelling for about  14 hrs. from Dallas, Texas. We arrived at the airport and was trying to find our way when someone shouted at me and waved her hand. I looked and saw my daughter.

I saw her and noticed that familiar face. Interestingly enough, she has some facial features that look like mine. We have not seen each other since 2002. It was nice to see her again.

Her employer sent her to America for training so they paid her fare and her hotel where she is now staying for 7 days. The hotel room was big. She had a king size bed with 4 plump pillows that are encased with a clean white pillow case. There were water bottles on the table top. The television was in front of the bed. There was a coffee maker on the other table. Inside the bathroom there were towels of different sizes, shampoo and soap ready for her to use.

Normally, it's very difficult to enter the US from the Philippines. This can also be very expensive since the dollar is higher in value than the Philippine peso. Only the Philippine elite can travel to the US. Since her employer is paying her travel expenses, money is now out of the question.

Let"s look at a different scenario and ask ourselves this question,

Given that we have a set amount of money we receive every month to pay for our basic necessities to survive just for being born in this world and in addition to that we receive an additional amount of money when we work and receive this guaranteed survival amenities from our country of origin, for both children and adults - would we still migrate?

Using commonsense, the answer will be - no, not as much as we do now, that we migrate to increase our chances of survival in terms of money.

I enjoy her being here but she had to leave her son in the Philippines with her aunt for a week to work here. Her son is being taken cared of by her aunt and that is not a problem.

I can see that there can be room for improvement  in terms of how we can live our life, express ourselves, do what we love to do, plus have better relationships if we work on how our ecosystem of money is structured

Philippines: How Porn and Prostitution Was Created Part 1 Sex, Pleasure and Money

What is fuelling the desire for porn?

Where i grew up, talking about sex openly was a taboo.

'Suppression'?

I was told to close my legs when i sit on a chair. I was told not to laugh boisterously because it was not feminine to do so.

Being a 'Filipina' means i cannot tell a male i like him, i cannot smoke, i cannot have sex before marriage etc.. That was the definition i was given which i lived as if i cannot redefine a word and live it as equal to who i really am - a female equal to a male - as my expression.

I was told to be obedient. I was told male asks the females out and so i learned to wait to be asked by males. I was told not to be forward - to be 'reserved' in my ways which i later found out is 'suppression'.

When i went to College in the city and lived with relatives,  i enrolled in a Catholic College for girls. Right beside this all girl's college is an all boy's college. I was about 17 yrs old at that time.

What i noticed was that there was this growing desire within me to know and experience sex with the opposite sex. My girl friends and i talked about the parties in the nearby boy's school. The perceived separation from the boys created fear of not having a relationship with the opposite sex so the desire intensified fueled by the fear. The fear of losing fueling the desire to win using sex, relationships and money.

There are a lot of movies and tv shows that depict 'courtship games' that culminate to 'love relationships', marriage and kids - most of which came from the US, impulsing us to buy tickets to the movies which equates to more money to produce films so there's more money and profit for the corporation and in terms of pornographic films, more money for the sex industry.

But what interested me at that time was how these characters look like they are enjoying kissing each other as depicted by their behaviors in the movie'. I 'interpreted' their body language as showing lots of pleasure, that i have not seen in ordinary life. I interpreted their words are conveying happiness and 'pleasure'. I imagined within my mind the 'multiple happiness' i will get after the kiss. My interest back then was 'how to experience the same pleasure' not realizing that this is an interpretation of what i see and not what is really what physical interaction was about. I did not see that this is me wanting the 'moreness' of me through physical interaction to be able to win in a world where i can loose as survival is not guaranteed.

Porn magazines was labelled as 'bad' and we were told not to touch those.

The question remains, why can't i not learn about them?

The mechanics of physical interaction between the male and the female was hidden and was labelled 'bad' which does not match what i observed. The movies are depicting kissing and physical interaction in bed between 2 people as a source of 'pleasure'. I later found out that this was deliberate to stimulate sexual stimulation for profit.

But what's fueling this desire for 'pleasure'?

I believed at that time that this desire = me as who i really am. It's not until i was introduced to Self-forgiveness that i realized everything about me is who i have become as the personality - someone who i created within my mind - based from my fear.

The church said it was 'a desire of the flesh and not of the spirit' so sex should not be done without marriage. The problem is that I did not question why the priest is saying this and quoting the bible. I accepted it as true believing that the priest is the authority not realizing that i am the author of my life and that i can direct myself to investigate about what REAL physical interaction is about.

I had my first boyfriend who initiated me to kissing and sex which i judged as less than what i magined within my mind -where i inflated or deflated reality by interpreting it and giving it a value more than or less than what it is based from my own survival - within self-interest.

I got married at a young age with my first boyfriend, pregnant with my first child.

While some would try porn and prostitution to experience sex and pleasure and to express ones sexuality and to transcend the fear of being inferior - or being labeled as 'bad', as what the Asian girl in a documentary i watched did - participating in a 'gang bang' with 250 men to transcend her fear of being inferior to men believing that girls too can have sex with more than one man just like men can have sex with more than one woman, I tried the culturally accepted way - Marriage.

But the starting point is the same isn't it?

Fear of being inferior and desire for pleasure through physical interaction.

Did i create the porn and prostitution industry? If yes, How?

In  my next blog i will explore this topic and write about this.

Solution To an Unhappy Sex Life Day 295 Imagination Redefinition

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In this blog i will be working with the Imagination Dimension
(highlighted with the brown color)

In the next blogs, i will be working on the rest of the dimensions 

Brief Outline:

Fear: the base platform of the mind
Fear of not having a good sex life

The Conscious Mind:
Design of the Conscious Mind
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5mMguKZT8VY

Thought: picture of having sex with DMC
Imagination: 'not enjoying having sex with someone i am not attracted to physically, and assuring myself that this suffering will end.'

The Subconscious Mind: 
Design of the Subconscious Mind
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_AoGjglQ94A

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Self-forgiveness Statements

I forgive myself that i have accepted and allowed myself to
participate in the design of 'fear of survival - as sex - as energy'

imagine myself not enjoying having sex with someone i am not attracted to physically and assuring myself that this suffering will end
believing that i as who i really am is suffering
believing that the suffering is a physical sensation
that is naturally experienced by everyone
believing that physical energy experiences are physical self movements
instead of realizing
it is me as the mind imagining
an alternate version of reality within my mind
an alternate reality that is not here
but somewhere out there
other than here
and then being lived into physical reality

extending the thoughts within my mind
into an imagination
as the personality
as the alternate version of me
experiencing negative energy

believing there is more of me
than here
imagining pictures and making movies out of those pictures
as i connect them to my past and relived the energy
that makes me react with sadness, frustration, loss, pain  and suffering
giving me a negative energy experience
believing that it is DMC creating suffering for me
instead of seeing and realizing it is me who
created the pictures and the movie within my mind
that gives me the 'lessness' of me
that gives me a negative energy experience
believing that i am just being nice
until i reach a point of 'that is it'
the break-up point
where the evil me
imagines myself winning
as i have the upper hand
when i call the shots
when i am the one wanting a break -up

enacting the desire for power
within a relationship
believing i am superior than DMC

the evil me
believing i have more chances of finding a man
than him finding a woman
seeing him as less than me
believing that because he does not know how to perform in bed
he is inferior and i am superior to him

instead of realizing that my desire to be superior
comes from fear of being inferior
so within me saying i want to end the relationship
i am living my fear
as the inferior personality

the positive coming from a negative
my desires fuelled by my fears

instead of realizing i have to face my fears
to through writing, self-forgiveness,
and self-correction in my living application
birth me here as who i really am
equal to DMC - equal to all that exist
as we all come from the dust of the earth
and to dust we shall all return

I forgive myself that i have accepted and allowed myself
to use  pictures and words within my mind
to animate the movie that is based on an interpretation of reality
so i can believe it
so it will seem real
so i can compete to win
and have a sense of living life
instead of realizing i am here living life
as the breath in every moment

I forgive myself that i have accepted and allowed myself to
run away from my fear
and delude myself that i have won
that i am powerful
that i am superior

instead of realizing
i have defined myself within
inferiority and superiority
power and powerlessness
losing and winning

the evil me only concerned
of what will benefit me
what is best for me
within self-interest

instead of
standing for what is best for all life
realizing that what is best for all
is essentially what is best for me

I forgive myself that i have accepted and allowed myself to
not see and realizie the consequence outflow of this
in the physical body
as it is being resourced to
transform natural energy
from the nutrients
to unnatural energy
for the mind to imagine
for the mind to think
for the mind to exist

within positive and negative energy experiences
needing friction and conflict
for it to exist

not asking myself the question,
could it be possible that,

like a socket on the wall
connecting ones laptop into it
that moment when one connects the wires or the electricity

that the mind resource the body this way also
transforming physicality to energy
so the mind can exist?
and commonsensically answering the question

It is to realize that the physical body
is an organism that is expressing itself here
and that i am the one existing within it
as that breath here

realizing that physical interaction
is an interaction of the body
with another body
as a physical expression

not a mind dimensional shift
not mind bliss and not mind ecstasy

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Commitment:
Correction Script

I commit myself to when and as i see myself
extending my thoughts to imaginations
imagining i am having sex with someone i don't like
imagining i am suffering and assuring myself that 
the suffering will end in the near future

I stop
I breathe

i realize this is me as the mind
using pictures and words within my mind
interpreting reality

connecting these to past memories

when i was left with my grandmother 
by my mom
imagining that the pain and suffering 
will end and that one day my mom will come home 

I assist myself to see realize and understand
that these pictures in my mind have no real physical existence
therefore an illusion
that i try to animate when and as i imagine

so it is to stop these illusions
and interpretation of reality
instead, to stabilize me as breath as who i am

walking with another as me
based from the starting point of 
assisting each other to birth self here
as life

rather than selecting a man to be in a relationship with based from 
what is best for me 
within not wanting to be with DJW
and wanting to break up the relationship
fearing being  alone
without someone i can be in a relationship with
so taking DMC on
rebounding from one relationship to another
to fill the gap - perceiving that is how i can transcend the fear
through starting another relationship 
with someone 
who was done in haste
from the starting point of fear
instead of choosing someone
from the starting point of 
walking with someone who is my equal
assisting each other
to birth self here

as the evil me being self-dishonest
to myself and to another as me
believing that he is separate from me

I forgive myself that i have accepted and allowed myself to 
be in a relationship with someone 
for my benefit 
within self-interest
to not feel alone and sad 
after a break up

I commit myself to select an agreement partner
who i can walk with as an equal
who i am ready to expand or grow with
as who i am, how i am and what i am

physically interacting with another as me
within having sex
expressing me 
within body movement
enjoying the physical sensations
as the breath here

I assist myself to wake myself up 
when and as i see myself imagining
a negative energy experience with someone
to rather
be here as the breath in every moment

to through writing, self-forgiveness and self-correction in my living application
birth me here as life

redefining words and live the redefined meaning of words
releasing the positive and negative values i have given words
to align my spoken and written expression
to who i am, how i am and what i am

I commit myself to focus on the physical
and vocalize physical activities that i do
wake myself up
to what i am doing in the physical
as the self - body - living here
rather than the body - mind - soul
interpreting reality

redefining the word alone
from AL-l al-ONE
existing as an individual separate from all
to AL-l ONE
as an individual
establishing individuality
with the quality
of equality
in its relationship to the whole

redefining the words BREAK UP
from a Mind Definition
BR-oken b-EAK-er  U-nto P-arts
as one perceives oneself 
separate from the whole
breaking the union into individual parts
destroying its completeness 

to  a definition equal to ones expression
redefining BREAK UP
as breaking up the  division within the mind
and be here as who one is - as wholeness

Solution To An Unhappy Sex Life Day 294 DMC Sex Thoughts

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This is a Continuation of This Blog
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In this blog i will be working with the Thought Dimension
(highlighted with the brown color)

In the next blogs, i will be working with the rest of the dimensions - imaginations, backchats, reactions etc.

Brief Outline:

Fear: the base platform of the mind
Fear of not having a good sex life

The Conscious Mind:
Design of the Conscious Mind
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5mMguKZT8VY

Thought: picture of having sex with DMC 
Imagination: 'not enjoying having sex with someone i am not attracted to physically, and assuring myself that this suffering will end.'

The Subconscious Mind: 
Design of the Subconscious Mind
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_AoGjglQ94A

Backchats:
1.'I do not like him because his body is thin'
2. 'I do not like the moles in his back'
3.'he does not make me feel happy'
4.'he's stingy and that means he does not really love me
5. 'he's not good in bed, so it is a mismatch'
6.'but he always take me to his guest house, he said he loves me, he did yoga because i am doing yoga, very entertaining, introduced me to his mom and  teaches me to draw aboriginal paintings, made this big canvas for us to draw into which no man did for me in the past'
7. 'I do not love him, I am not attracted to him'
8. 'he does not have that naughty look

Reaction: 
faking it, feeling of loss

The Unconscious Mind:
Design of the Unconscious Mind
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pc4h8SQxsLI

Body Movement: 
withdrawing touch, smiles halfway
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Self-forgiveness Statements

I forgive myself that i have accepted and allowed myself to 

participate in the design of - fear of survival - as energy

have the thought

or having a picture of me having sex with DMC

within my mind

being unhappy 

believing that this is me

as who i am as self

thinking these thoughts

relieving that negative energy experience of 

that event which happened in the past

in the present

instead of realizing this is me

as the mind

thinking these thoughts

where i am not aware of how i created 

these thoughts

not aware of how i created the mind 

not aware of the origin of theses thoughts 

not realizing that the body is being resourced 

for energy

for the mind to exist

through thinking these thoughts

fearing not having a good satisfying sex life

with DMC

fearing being unhappy with him

for the rest of my life

fearing that i will reduce my experience of life

to a negative energy experience

of pain and suffering

desiring to have a good sex life

believing that it is my right

to experiencing 

life to the fullest 

with DMC

believing that living life to the fullest mean 

i will live a life

of unendless happiness

having a happy sex life

with someone 

in a relationship

believing that my life with DMC is 

controlled

believing that i am living a controlled life

when i cannot express myself within physical interaction/or sex fully

where within this 

i am not aware that 

the body is resourced

when i think these  thoughts 

where natural energy is converted to 

unnatural energy

for the mind to think

for the mind to exist

for me to have a negative energy experience

as the 'unhappy me - as the personality

an alternate version of me 

within my mind

which i created'

not realizing that in thinking this thought

i am using energy

and that energy has to come from somewhere

and that somewhere 

is inside the body

It is being resourced from the body - the energy powerhouse

I forgive myself that i have accepted and allowed myself to

think only of myself - within self-interest

when i get into relationships 

when i have sex with a partner

not caring about what happens to the physical body 

when i have these thoughts

I forgive myself that i have accepted and allowed myself 

to not realize that 

when i am thinking

i cannot see DMC

as who he really is

as my beingness is trapped

within my mind

evolving me as the personality

that desires good sex 

rather than being here as breath walking with 

my partner as myself

as an equal

I forgive myself that i have accepted and allowed myself to not see

realize and understand that 

the desire comes from a fear

that the positive comes from a negative

I forgive myself that i have accepted and allowed myself to 

not see that 

when the body is resourced 

when thinking thoughts

the body is weakening more

and as i desire to eat 'healthy food'

believing i am assisting my body

i am doing the opposite also

i am accepting and allowing the body to be malnourished

as natural energy from food

gets transformed to unnatural energy

forgetting the commonsense  that

its just a matter of time

before it manifests externally as a disease

slowly but surely as i participate in thinking thoughts

of unhappiness as well as bliss

i am resourcing the body for energy

so, stopping mind participation is the key

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Commitment

Self - Correction Script

I commit myself to when and as i see myself 

thinking thoughts 

of not having good  sex with someone

i am in a relationship with

I stop

I breathe

i realized this is me as the mind

fearing losing

seeing good sex as a prize 

i win for being with the right man

instead of realizing having physical interaction 

is a physical activity

that requires for me to be here

stable 

as the breath in every moment 

having an equal and one relationship with the body

having physical interaction with someone as me

who is my equal

walking with another as myself

as we birth ourselves as life

assisting each other

and calling each other out

when and as one participate in

thinking thoughts of being unhappy within sex

in fearing negative energy experiences

in desiring a positive energy experience

taking self- responsibility 

and correcting oneself 

in ones living participation

to through writing

self-forgiveness and self correction in 

ones living application

birth oneself 

as who one really is

enjoying the physical 

within physical interaction

as that primal scream of life

enrolling in a free course 

to learn about oneself

ones thoughts, emotions and feelings etc.

so one can assist oneself and another as self 

within a 'relationship'